Funerals, People.
We’re all going to have one. I don’t think any of them will be as truly loving and sad as Bob Saget’s. So many people loved this guy. It was overwhelming.
I have not been to an actual funeral in a long time. I always seem to find a reason I can’t go. Whether it’s geographic or I’m working, I just don’t go. For some reason I felt like I had to go to Bob’s. I need to understand that this is going to start happening more. There is a reason funerals happen. It’s to understand what is going to happen, normalize it, be there for your grief and the grief of others and honor a person’s life.
The service was moving and funny and sad. One of the things that many people said was that Bob really believes that laughing could and does bring people together. That is why he wanted to tour. To bring people together in laughter. It really made me think about my own work. Am I trying to bring people together? Is that what my comedy is? Sadly, no. I don’t think what I am doing is meant to bring people together, really. Maybe it will. I do appreciate that intention and will keep it in mind. I just think I’m doing something else. I might need to do it more Bob’s way. It takes more heart to do that. I’m a little guarded.
The Rabbi had a couple of good bits. Bob’s family was amazing. There were a lot of comics there. It really did what it was supposed to do. It made me realize Bob is dead, he was a great guy, it’s sad and he is now in the ground in a pine box.
That’s the thing that seems to be haunting me. I drive by that cemetery all the time. I see it from my hike. I think about Bob. I think about him being home in his bed at his house a week or so ago, waking up, living his life. Now, he’s there. In the ground. In a box.
It’s so upsetting. That is how it ends though for most of us. One of the ways.
I’m going to miss knowing he is alive in the world and it was always great to see him when I did.
Today I talk to Nicole Byer about stuff. She’s very funny. On Thursday I talk to John Mellencamp. He’s kind of funny. Great talks.
Enjoy!
Boomer, Monkey and LaFonda live!
Love,
Maron
Bob.
